Owning Our Fantasies
I, like all of you, having been watching a media firestorm concerning the film, FIFTY SHADES OF GREY. I have read and heard the shaming and condemnation. (And yes, when we tell women that what they feel is silly, corrupt, or damaging to the future of all women, we are shaming and/or condemning.) I have seen the Facebook posts, the boycott petitions, and the open letters to our daughters. But here’s the thing… this film did not emerge out of nothing. Millions of women responded to and enjoyed this story. Given those numbers, I think it is safe to assume that some of those women are people we like, respect, and perhaps even love. Think about that for a moment.Read more
Fear stems from our unwillingness to experience a particular condition. It doesn’t matter what that condition is. If we are unwilling to experience it, we can be controlled. The condition could be anything: unemployment, divorce, solitude, poverty, confrontation, injury, illness, or death. All conditions have an opposing counterpart to which we are probably very attached: ie. employment, marriage, friendship, wealth, harmony, mobility, health, and life. 
