Dodging Disappointment
Calming Emotions, Mindfulness, Motivation, NINJA, ShowBiz, Writing

Dodging Disappointment

When we are willing to do the work, remain flexible as to the means, and have unwavering belief in our ability to get it right—disappointment has no place to root. On the other hand, when our heart and mind are attached to a fixed outcome and timetable, disappointment digs deep and sprouts up like a nasty weed. Water those weeds with doubt, and soon we’ll have a field of despair where nothing positive can grow.Read more

The equalizer
Exciting Stuff, Motivation, Writing

On the Set of THE EQUALIZER

Producer Tony Eldridge

Producer Tony Eldridge

After eight rollercoaster years of development, Tony and I step off the teamster van into the bustling location set of THE EQUALIZER—a tent town of Hollywood activity in the Boston burb of Chelsea. It’s surreal, and hot. They’re having a heat wave. Heat is literally coming off the pavement in waves. An off-duty cop stops traffic and waves us across the street where electricians, sound techs, grips, and dozens of other specialists are happily going about their business despite the high temperature. And why shouldn’t they? They’re working on an exciting movie with the incomparable Denzel Washington!Read more

Cloudy Skies
Empowerment, Mindfulness, Motivation, Relationships

Generosity of Spirit

What is generosity of spirit? For me, it is willingness to offer meaningful support without fear for self. Sometimes that support will take a financial form, but more likely it will come in the form of praise, thanks, promotion, assistance, compassion, or simply time. I imagine that this half of my definition resonates with most people, but what about the last part? For me, that little tag, “without fear for self,” is the most important part.Read more

Barbq
Mindfulness, Motivation

World of Possibility

BarBQHave you ever noticed how some people always find a way to get a task done while others flounder and fail? We might be tempted to assume that it has something to do with the nature of the task—and sometimes it does—unless we witness two people facing the identical challenge. Our second assumption might be to credit the fortitude and resourcefulness of the individual—which is frequently the caseRead more

Arrival delayed
Mindfulness, Motivation, Perspective, Writing

Arrival Delayed

ArrivalDelayedWe have all heard the warning to be careful of what we wish for. It frequently accompanies a sentiment regarding trees and a forest. Well, there have been far too many times in my life where what I had thought would be best was later proven to be wrong for me to trust my wish-making abilities. Fortunately, most of those lessons were delivered safely by not getting what I asked for, rather than getting stuck with what I did.Read more

Doubtarising
Calming Emotions, Mindfulness, Motivation

Doubt Arising

DoubtarisingNegative thoughts can take over our minds like weeds in a neglected garden. Given time, those suckers dig in deep. But while pulling a mature weed is darn near impossible without an Olympic tug-of-war team behind you, pulling a new weed is easy. The trick is to take them out when they first appear.

Perhaps the worst of these insidious thoughts is doubt. Doubt is a weed on steroids. It undermines every positive idea, project, or relationship we try to grow.Read more