Tag Archives: Relationships

Ninja Strategies for a Peaceful Thanksgiving

Holiday gatherings can be tricky, but this year, with our current political climate, Thanksgiving could feel downright dangerous. If we recklessly enter this emotional minefield, we could blow up friendships and family. However, armed with a few ninja strategies, we can protect our relationships and create a stress-free holiday. Continue reading

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Finding Our Tribe

Even when engaged in a solitary endeavor such as writing, community matters. Perhaps more so. How else can we truly connect except by helping one another, sharing stories, and rejoicing in each other’s success? It is far too easy to lose ourselves in the obsessive passions that drive us forward or to succumb to the demons and worries that threaten to hold us back. Whether we are consumed with career, school, exploration, creativity, or mastery, our lives are benefited by meaningful interaction with our tribe. Continue reading

How I Met My Writing Deadline: Caring for Others and Self

An emergency with my elderly parents sent me flying out of the house with a hastily packed bag, numerous tins of whole leaf tea, and of course… my laptop.  What more could a writer need?  When two days turned into nine, I had a few more ideas!  Fortunately, the most important necessity could be found anywhere at any time. Continue reading

When to Leave – How to Stay

Knowing when to leave is as important as knowing how to stay. Note that I did not say “when to stay,” I said “how.” There’s a difference. It’s not just a matter of timing. If we choose to stay, and we want to feel empowered by that choice, we have to know how to stay, well. Continue reading

Knee-Jerk Reactions

The littlest bit of information about a person or a situation can change our perspective, entirely. When we stop to think about it, this seems obvious and right. We may feel an immediate resonance with the statement and think of all the times that this has proven to be true. We might even feel that this sentiment is part of our wisdom and an example of how we walk in the world. And yet, we all make snap judgments. Sometimes, this is a necessary trait for our emotional and societal survival; and other times, it’s just our assumptions getting the better of us.

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Relationship-Building at THRILLERFEST

I’m back in Malibu after four days of relationship-building in New York City! Sure, I was at an exciting conference, jam packed with thrilling authors. And, yes, I got to pitch my novel with great success. And, of course, there were fabulous books, exceptional panels, celebrity authors, classy parties, and heartfelt entertainment. But what really made the weekend for me was the opportunity to forge and strengthen relationships.

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Time Warp

Time, like everything is relative. It depends on our temperament, our work load, our environment, our relationship to people, our stage in life, our health, and myriad other things. Our perception of time fluctuates throughout the day, week, month, or years. It varies according to topic, people, and circumstance. So while we would like to think that the past is the past and the present is the present, that is not always the case. The past for one person might be the present for another. It might even be perceived as the future for someone else. Talk about confusing! Is it any wonder that our differing perceptions of time can cause such conflict and heated emotions? Continue reading