Stopping the stress

Stopping the stress
“Most of us, at some point, struggle with too much work, too little time, too much risk, or too little stability. The pressures build and the stress kicks in and, suddenly, we forget that we’ve manifested these conditions in our lives for a reason. We have this high-pressure, risky, exciting career because we are exhilarated by challenge, danger, and the potential for huge rewards; or we have taken this tedious, uninspiring job because of the freedom that the dependable income provides. We might limit our spending so we can pursue our passions, or sacrifice our time so we can afford our pleasures. We might date some wild and ridiculously good-looking person to satisfy our desire and chase our fantasies, or marry someone with volatile emotions because it makes us feel alive. Every choice we make has pros and cons that stem from our nature and our preferences.

There is nothing wrong with wanting lots of money, but it generally comes with long hours and hard work. Freedom is great, but its price is risk and instability. Enjoying a simple, peaceful existence is terrific, but it often requires sacrificing expensive luxuries that other people might consider to be essential. Regardless of what we gain, there will be things that we will lose. Stress comes from rallying against these losses and perceiving them to be hardships beyond our control.

When we embrace the way in which we have chosen to live, the quality of our life changes dramatically. Other people may think our career and relationship choices would be stressful, but that doesn’t mean that we have to agree. When we embrace the way in which we have chosen to live and own the cost for those choices, we can face our challenges without feeding our anxiety. This acceptance gives us a sense of purpose for the hardships that we face and allows us to use the physiological reactions to our advantage, instead of our detriment: we can feel focused without strain, stimulated without fear, energized without a rise in blood pressure. Our experience is dictated by our perceptions. If we change the way we perceive our hardships, we can choose to live without stress.”

– Excerpt from the new expanded e-book edition of EMPOWERED LIVING EXPANDED EDITION: A GUIDE TO PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL PROTECTION.  In it you will find more depth and more topics for integrating physical and emotional protection, including 26 personal stories from my career in the entertainment industry, parenthood, martial arts, and well…life.


Tori Eldridge is the author of EMPOWERED LIVING EXPANDED EDITION, adapts books to screen, writes a monthly muse-letter on mindful living, and is currently writing a multi-cultural thriller series. She has performed in such Broadway shows as CATS, was a series regular on the television hit THE LOVE BOAT, performed the motion capture for the lead in FINAL FANTASY: SPIRITS WITHIN, and recorded with music legend Brian Wilson. Tori is a 5th degree black belt NINJA and has taught empowerment across the country.  Follow Me on Facebook!

Tori Eldridge
Tori Eldridge is a Honolulu-born writer, a 5th degree black belt ninja, and a former actress, dancer, singer on Broadway, television, and film. She writes action-packed, culturally-rich thrillers and mystically intriguing suspense, empowering non-fiction, and has taught ninjutsu and empowerment across the country.
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